Maybe we grew up in a dysfunctional family and our parents argued all the time. Being too young to know any better, we assumed that was NORMAL... And, as adults, we went on to re-create the same atmosphere and daily stress in our own lives and households.
We never really wanted to live that way, but we were CONDITIONED. Our subconscious mind was programmed for that kind of repeat experience.
How do we break the cycle?!
Try using this EFT protocol:
On a scale 0-10, with 10 being as high as possible, identify your current relationship stress level. That's your starting point.
Karate Chop:"Even though I feel so frustrated, anxious, and annoyed most of the time, I give myself permission to relax just today and see how I like it.
"Even though being calm and confident seem to be out of my reach, I choose to love and accept myself a little bit more every day anyway."
"Even though I feel crazy for wasting time on this silly tapping right now, as there are so many people and chores waiting on me, I choose to stop doing what's not working and try something new and unorthodox - it might just be what I need to get in touch with myself again.
Eyebrow: My life is a mess!
Side of eye: I must be going nuts
Under eye: How can I possibly calm down?
Under nose: There's too much to do
Chin: I'm overwhelmed
Collarbone: I must have lost myself
Under arm: Why even bother?
Lower rib: I'm so upset with myself!
Top of head: Everybody wants a piece of me...
EB: Too much on my plate...
SE: How can I find some quiet time for myself?
UE: It can't be done
UN: I don't even know what I want any more.
CH: Maybe I can still relax and enjoy life.
CB: No, I can't!
UA: Yes, I will!
LR: I give myself permission to let go of all of my stress and anxiety.
TH: I choose to be calm, loving, and confident. Life is good! It feels good to be me!
Take a deep breath and relax. Check your level of distress again. Did it go down? Ideally, you want to bring it down to a zero. If needed, you can go and do a new round of tapping. Good luck!